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Poor Mr. K just came back from Sick Children's Hospital because his penis got kinda swollen and irritated looking, and he had a fever that started yesterday afternoon. Those two things in combination had me figuring it's better safe than sorry to take him in... But poor K.

See, I don't believe in circumcision, and neither does Dad, so K is intact. This, combined with the fact that he doesn't talk, and isn't potty trained (so won't pee on command, roll back said foreskin, or allow someone to do these things for him without extensive wrestling) meant they wouldn't be able to get a clean urine sample, this means-- you guessed it-- CATHETER time *yikes*

It was terrible and full of screaming, lots of which went right into my ear, but he was listening to me because he kept repeating "OKAY" when I would tell him it was going to be okay, and he even said "Winky" and "All DONE!" besides just screaming- I know it's weird of me to feel like verbalizing during this stuff is a really good sign, but since he doesn't do it very often it feels like a good thing ANY time it happens. It was a quick and supposedly painless (like I believe that for a minute) procedure. The draw back of course being that now it hurts when he pees, and the only thing we could do to help is to put a hot compress on his penis for a while. Is he going to let ANYONE touch his penis after what he's been through? Would you? He won't even let me remove his pants- I will be lucky if I ever get to change him ever again! I can already smell poop though, so I guess I'll find out about that soon enough.

Near as we can figure from what they said it is (Balinitis?) it was probably Friday night's bubble bath that's to blame- soon after that is when the fever started, and then the redness and swelling showed themselves today. I should have warned the husband about my own childhood brush with the Bubble creature. I developed a nasty swollen redness that covered me from head to foot- it went down pretty quick, but I do remember the itching, oh the itching... K seems to only be affected in the genital area, so hopefully all the things we currently do will help that anyway. But boy do I feel guilty. I will educate the husband about the uses of the baby shampoo as bubble bath the next time it seems reasonable to ask him to sit in warm soapy water. Poor little dude... I only keep the thing around because it's also kind of a toy- I should probably have dumped the stuff out of it.

The worst part of it all is trying to explain what's going on to him and knowing he's not really quite getting it, and having to go through with it all anyway. I wish we had fabulous Star Trek technology, at least for children, so all you have to do is wave your tricorder over his pants and say, "take 2 hypo sprays and call me if it doesn't magically go away!" *sigh* I hope he's not traumatized.

This also was a terrible weekend to be sick because there were a ton of large and small festivals going on all over town, so many options of things to do and eat, and we basically had to pass it all up because he really wasn't up for it. This means the only fun we're bound to have for the rest of the summer is the Ex which is fun, and has a large window of time that it happens during. but is also a little pricey. It's not like we're moving though, so hopefully we can catch some of these things next year when they're likely to be more meaningful anyway.

Later.

Date: 2004-08-08 03:08 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] dartfaerie.livejournal.com
Oh poor K! Poor mama too. I'm sure he's not completely traumatized for life, he just won't be letting anyone near his goods for awhile.

My son isn't circumsized either, I never thought about that causing problems that would lead to catheters! Ouch!

Date: 2004-08-08 03:30 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] hippybngstockng.livejournal.com
I bet it wouldn't actually be a problem for most kids his age- most of the 3 year olds I knew in day care would have been able to do the potty thing by now, and might have been up for the whole clean catch procedure since all it would have entailed would be pulling back the foreskin and cleaning the area thoroughly before the kid urinates, plus kiddo needs to urinate on command. K doesn't do the potty thing, doesn't even like people to wipe him, and sometimes doesn't even want his diaper off at all- I think that's part of the Autism thing- he has some fun sensory issues, and clothing is part of it. He is like the opposite of all the nudist children on badparents in that respect ;) You have to psyche him up about getting naked!

Date: 2004-08-08 10:58 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] dartfaerie.livejournal.com
Well at least you know he won't be stripping down and playing naked in the park sandbox any time soon! *grin*

Date: 2004-08-08 06:00 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] by-sea-change.livejournal.com
Awww... Poor little guy! I'm sure he won't be traumatized for long. (We didn't circumsize either. I just couldn't bring myself to allow it, even though I had all kinds of people pushing for it.)

Date: 2004-08-09 11:00 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] coldtoast.livejournal.com
Poor little man!

This reminded me of my cousin Liam (also 3)-- when his legs broke, we had to give him baths with a sponge. I was using a big sponge to wash him and I didnt' want to use the big sponge to wash his penis because I didn't want to get his surrounding cast wet. I asked his mom for another smaller sponge so I could wash it, and she goes "oh, it's no problem, just cut it in half and it'll be fine". Right about then, Liam grabs my wrist and with the most panicked look I've ever seen goes "Nonononono don't cut my penis don't cut my penis nonononono!!". Hahaha, it didn't even occur to him that his mom meant for me to cut the SPONGE in half. Finally it dawned on him and he started giggling, but he wasn't about to let me ANYWHERE near his junk until we'd straightened it out.
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Re: ye gods

Date: 2004-08-10 03:04 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] hippybngstockng.livejournal.com
Big thing I've noticed is how many people don't know how to maintain it in the first few years- if you start using a sitter, or sending him to day care, make sure the person changing his diaper (if it's still applicable) doesn't pull back the foreskin... My mom almost did that when he was like 4 days old, and I had to stop her- she then said, "Oh that must have been what happened to your uncle- he had to have an emergency circumcision at about a week old because it became seriously inflamed and swollen!" Like most folks my grandma had heard about the pulling it back part, but not about the waiting until they're like 3 or 4 to do so.

In fact, I was surprised to see that the head on K's penis still really isn't visible yet- there's more "path" to it than there used to be, but it's still sealed up pretty tight.

Date: 2004-08-10 11:31 am (UTC)
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