For the record..

[hippybngstockng]

Yes, he's lucky he's cute and that I love him with the white hot intensity of a thousand suns, and realize that sometimes his excitement overcomes him and he just blurts stuff out. We all do that, I can't hold it against him if he just happens to do it just a little more. I knew he was prone to that when I married him, and he's gotten pretty good at not doing it as much as possible, but especially when talking hypothetically, it will still happen. Since I know how sometimes HR people write things down, and it becomes the thing upon which your employment hinges, I did what I do, I freaked out. There was no yelling, but there was a demand for chocolate, and a need to vent in LJ-poll form to keep from ranting at him about it endlessly. The flowers might also have been my idea, but they are pretty and all purple, and they please me. We discussed my issues with needing his answers in such things to be a lot more vague, and he accepted this as logical. His apology was sincere, so he's forgiven.

So YES, we're fine. I'm a little worried, just because of my own personal paranoia about such things, but I am being reasonable and forgiving because it's not like we've signed anything. I'm just a little in the GAAAAAH mode about it, because, well, it's moving, and limbo.. I can't stand it, and I can't stand thinking about it, and I especially can't stand the thought of potentially having to do it at light speed, needing to call upon the help of friends who barely know me, and then just the whole ungodly prospect of that long haul on the little cash we have left.. Not to mention the whole not actually having a place to live on the other end thing. He copped to my being right about it right away though, and his apology was sincere, so as long as it doesn't actually happen that I have to get the fuck outta dodge by the end of October on less than $1000, I'm good. It should only take a couple more days to answer that question, so I'm fine until then.

If it does come to pass, yeah, I know, I can deal with that too.. I am becoming all cold and vulcan to the concept already, thinking about how I could just truck 80% of my shit out onto the lawn right now and start a yard sale, and not stop until it was to the point where we're sleepin on a mattress in an empty room. The longer this shit goes on, the more I cease to care about how much history I take with me, since I have too much future on my hands at the moment. There needs to be a balance, and if that is the bottleneck, then that's got to change. It's in the way, and it can go. I haven't come this far for that to start holding us back again. No way.

Comments

[lesliepear.livejournal.com]

Good luck. Where would you be headed if it works out?

[hippybngstockng.livejournal.com]

Vancouver, BC. It's a lovely city, and a good job, right downtown near transit. I would not complain, except for the potential deadline! ;)

[sarrabellum.livejournal.com]

Oh, Vancouver! I love it SO MUCH!

[greyaenigma.livejournal.com]

Hey, I've always wanted to visit there!

Mind you, if you move to Vancouver, WA, you'll be easier to visit.

[by-sea-change.livejournal.com]

Oh Vancouver!! I hear it's amazing! Very Seattle-esque. :)

[the-nita.livejournal.com]

FWIW, if need be, I have contacts there - we might be able to get some info for you on "schtuff" out that end of the world.

Plus one of my co-workers *just* moved out there, so she might have good *current* information on moving costs to get there (as well as recommendations).

[poeticalpanther.livejournal.com]

Yah, ditto - I know a few people out on the Canadian part of the Wet Coast as well (and not a few more on the American part, but you're covered there).

Bancoobahbeesee????

[ronelyn.livejournal.com]

Yaaaaaay! We can, like, maybe SEE you and stuff! *hug* I understand the torn-ness, but you moving to VBC has soooooo many up-sides, not the least of which is that they actually HAVE a working public transit system.

And we'd have an excuse to go to VBC, AND, we could, like, maybe SEE you and stuff!

[poeticalpanther.livejournal.com]

Wow - I now feel torn. On the one hand, W00T! for work prospects. On the other, BOO! for maybe losing close-by people I've come to really enjoy. :)

[morganminstrel.livejournal.com]

Well, if they're moving you guys across the country, hopefully the company will be willing to throw a moving allowance at Crash. So you might not be having to do it *all* on your own.

Something to make the potential move a bit more exciting: if you really are in BC by the end of October, you'd be able to drive down and make it to Ravenloft the first weekend in November..... :-)

[djinnthespazz.livejournal.com]

Mmm. By all accounts a fabulous city with a fabolous climate.

Keep us posted!

[saavedra77.livejournal.com]

Woo-Hoo! Vancouver! I am soooooo going to visit you, if you move there!

On a less demonstrative note, I'd bring up the question of a moving allowance at the point when they make Crash an offer.

[bubblesutonium.livejournal.com]

Vancouver would rock; you would be much closer, but would still have some of the health/education for K benefits of being in Canada.

And to reiterate what Morgan said, two words, "relocation assistance"

[lightning-rider.livejournal.com]

I too have wayy too much crap. I should ebay it or just throw it out. I have over 12 boxes of comics I *DON'T* want. I went through them years ago... and they're just taking up valuable closet space.

I hope everything works out alright... and I hope that you get a freind( not your mom) to help you go through stuff. sounds like you're alternating between saving all and chucking everything... and as a fellow packrat, I wish I went more towards the second... at the same time you might want to have someone help you that way in five months you don't regret throwing out a coffee cup and blaming crash for the lack of kewl stuff in the new city.

Unclench. eat some choco... and do something to release tension.