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hippybngstockngI want to say a big huge thanks to everyone who has given me hugs and support about Betty. Thank you, I really appreciate it. Some extra special thanks to ![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-userinfo.gif)
sarrabellum and sleepwhenimdead who called me, which was super nice of them. Sorry I was less than coherent, and rather gushy about your awesomely cute baby rat. :)
I don't think K's really noticed the lack of Betty yet. I went with Crash to get him, and we hung out at the mall for a while, and then mentioned it on the way home. He doesn't usually go looking for her upon getting home, though he gets excitement out of playing with her and talking to her. I know he's going to notice, it's just a question of how it shows up. He did let out some brief whimpers when we mentioned her going to the doctor (might just have been the word doctor), and also repeated all the names we mentioned with a sad tone, including Betty's, but he might just have been doing his mimic thing. It's hard to tell sometimes whether it's that he doesn't understand the words you're saying, or doesn't get their actual meaning yet. He's been around death, and he was in the room when Tatsu went, but he's still not at an age to truly get what it means. He knows he doesn't see folks who died anymore, and that's the extent of it as far as I can tell. When I talk about people who are gone he might seem a little sad, but he might also just be trying to understand what I am trying to ask about, and then he stalks off and ignores me but in a rather normal-for-him fashion. Again, time will likely tell. I remember my first cats, but not much, and had to ask my mom about them later on. I expect to have a conversation with him a few years down the line when we look at pictures about what happened with Betty and Tatsu, and that's cool. It's not that important to me that my 4 year old understand death RIGHT NOW. Duh.
So far I am hanging in though. Breathing. We have a parenting thang tomorrow, and I stupidly forgot to get babysitting, so that'll be interesting to figure out. I might just send Crash, my brain is not absorbing a lot of new information these last few days. It's too busy gargling on old business and older memories..
sarrabellum and sleepwhenimdead who called me, which was super nice of them. Sorry I was less than coherent, and rather gushy about your awesomely cute baby rat. :)I don't think K's really noticed the lack of Betty yet. I went with Crash to get him, and we hung out at the mall for a while, and then mentioned it on the way home. He doesn't usually go looking for her upon getting home, though he gets excitement out of playing with her and talking to her. I know he's going to notice, it's just a question of how it shows up. He did let out some brief whimpers when we mentioned her going to the doctor (might just have been the word doctor), and also repeated all the names we mentioned with a sad tone, including Betty's, but he might just have been doing his mimic thing. It's hard to tell sometimes whether it's that he doesn't understand the words you're saying, or doesn't get their actual meaning yet. He's been around death, and he was in the room when Tatsu went, but he's still not at an age to truly get what it means. He knows he doesn't see folks who died anymore, and that's the extent of it as far as I can tell. When I talk about people who are gone he might seem a little sad, but he might also just be trying to understand what I am trying to ask about, and then he stalks off and ignores me but in a rather normal-for-him fashion. Again, time will likely tell. I remember my first cats, but not much, and had to ask my mom about them later on. I expect to have a conversation with him a few years down the line when we look at pictures about what happened with Betty and Tatsu, and that's cool. It's not that important to me that my 4 year old understand death RIGHT NOW. Duh.
So far I am hanging in though. Breathing. We have a parenting thang tomorrow, and I stupidly forgot to get babysitting, so that'll be interesting to figure out. I might just send Crash, my brain is not absorbing a lot of new information these last few days. It's too busy gargling on old business and older memories..
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Date: 2005-09-13 07:43 pm (UTC)I was somewhat out of it when we called, too, so I'm sorry I wasn't better with the making of the conversation and nice words.
We're thinking of you.
*more love*
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